When I was a young man in New York, it was easy to get laid. There were parks and bathrooms, back rooms, more bathhouses and sex clubs than you knew what to do with—all the ways gay men had to get off before the internet. I can clearly picture one day in particular in my late teens, cruising the Central Park Ramble. It was late spring, nearly warm enough to be summer. A breeze came in off the lake, the sun was just beginning to set.
Cruising for sex
Cruising for sex - Wikipedia
Cruising for sex , or cruising , is walking or driving about a locality, called a cruising ground , in search of a sex partner , usually of the anonymous , casual , one-time variety. According to historian and author Tim Blanning , the term cruising originates from the Dutch equivalent kruisen. In a specifically sexual context, the term "cruising" originally emerged as an argot "code word" in gay slang , by which those "in the know" would understand the speaker's unstated sexual intent, whereas most heterosexuals , on hearing the same word in the same context, would normally misread the speaker's intended meaning in the word's more common nonsexual sense. This served and in some contexts, still serves as a protective sociolinguistic mechanism for gay men to recognize each other, and avoid being recognized by those who may wish to do them harm in broader societies noted for their homophobia. In the latter half of the twentieth century, decriminalization of homosexual behaviour increasingly became the norm in English-speaking countries.
Ask Anna: The art of cruising for sex
Throughout history and for a variety of reasons, gay and bisexual men have looked to public bathrooms as places to get laid. Cruising public restrooms has become an ingrained part of gay history, with mixed feelings surrounding it. Noting both sides, gay video game designer Robert Yang made a bathroom cruising video game in entitled The Tearoom as a way to highlight a real-life historic police sting on a public bathroom in Mansfield, Ohio, as a way to highlight ongoing police violence and public shaming of gay men seeking consensual adult encounters in public. So below we briefly recount the stories of four men arrested for bathroom cruising as a way to examine the phenomenon throughout history and the social consequences it has incurred throughout time.
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